calling the shots
and not always liking it so much.
I was raised on the idea of letting the boys win. It’s not worth wounding their pride over you know?
I’ve also lived most of my married life that way. And it worked well for us. He was spoiled, I was spoiled. On the occasion it got out of balance, I let him know (crying, pouting and stomping may or may not have been involved) and it went back to normal.
Was I getting a little cocky in my infinite marital wisdom of over 10 years? Maybe. So God threw us a new wrinkle.
Business.
When it started it was pretty much all Jeff. His baby so to speak. And his baby grew. That’s a good thing. I was happy when it grew big enough for me to quit my job and stay home to “help”
I was happy when I got to enjoy my first pregnancy (4th child) not working full time for “the man”
I was happy when it grew enough to move out of our home and into it’s very own shop.
I was happy when I got my own office WITH a crib, rocking chair for nursing AND room for schooling the kids.
I was happy that my skill from the workforce were going to be benefiting my DH in his business.
But then slowly, the balance shifted.
All things production were Jeff and all things office, sales and managerial were mine.
I’m a pretty bossy and opinionated (and outgoing) person, so for the most part I was cool with that.
Except for days like today. When my opinion and Jeff’s don’t match. I still let him win a lot, but there are times (like today) when I’m right and it’s important that we do it my way.
Important in the realm of meeting government requirements and customers expectations.
We’ve discussed this, my husband and I.
Part of me is under the influence that I should submit to him no matter what. Let the consequences fall on his shoulders. I like that idea because it absolves me of responsibility.
However, I can’t get by the fact that God put these abilities in me for a reason. And put me with Jeff. And this business to us.
Jeff feels that the helpmeet role is much more important than the submissive wife. (in our lives - YMMV)
Even when the helpmeet is making steam come out of his ears and causing him to slam things.
Until he thanks me for making his do the right thing.
Now if I could just get an exact time on that…..
